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Fear is a Liar


How many times have you been asked a question and you are afraid to answer honestly?  How often are you asked to do something or be involved in something and you say yes or maybe, all well knowing that you don't want to?  How many times have you been approached by someone offering you something and insread of just saying "No Thanks", you just smile and listen?  Why do WE do this?  Yes, I do this often.....well, I used to do this often.  FEAR!  We are afraid to seem harsh, afraid to be honest, afraid to upset someone else, or afraid that someone will get mad at us?

I am a non confrontational person.  I HATE conflict.  I will just smile and say ok before I cause waves.  Or at least that is who I WAS!  I broke free from this FEAR a while ago.  I have realized that it is okay to be honest, to say NO, and to sometimes stand up for ME!  And if the other person gets upset or angry, that is on them.....not me!

I am a (brutally sometimes) honest person.  Whenever I am asked a question I always say "Do you want me to be honest?"  I don't take offense to others being honest and actually fully appreciate it!  Working in an MLM business I hear NO often.........and I am good with that.  The part that confuses me is when someone doesn't give an answer or says yes and doesn't follow through.

So this is just my personal opinion.  If you want to say NO, then say it.  If someone asks you a question, be honest or don't answer.  Do this for YOU and you will bless the other person also.  The only way around FEAR is straight through it.  Strength comes every time you stare down that fear.  Starting here may be a catalyst....it was for me!

If we all agreed on everything then we would be a bunch of robots!  Now, how fun would that be?!

Fear is a Liar
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